Writing your Wedding Vows

Nothing is more romantic than a bride or groom confessing their love to one another in front of their family and friends. However, coming up with what to say has perplexed many well meaning people. With a few tips, you can take what is in your heart and put into words.

First make a list of things that you love about your partner. This will help you remember what you want to include in your final copy.

Then make another list of things you promise to bring to the marriage. This could be anything from promising your support, your plans for handling arguments, or promising your faithfulness to them. Just anything that you promise to bring to the union.

You should have about 3 or 4 things listed that you love about them and 3 or 4 promises that you plan to make when you are finished. If you have more than that you may have to pick through them and prioritized your list a little. Make sure what is most important to you is included.

You then have to decide on your mood. Do you want your vows to be poetic and mushy? Humorous and entertaining?  They should fit your personality but don’t forget to make them true and from the heart.

 You must decide on a length of your vows also. Try nothing over 1 minute long. It’s nice to go on and on about the love you have for your partner, but after a while your guest could get uninterested and not pay attention. If there is more that you would wish to say maybe you could write a speech for the reception or wait for the honeymoon.

There are many ways that you can start writing. You can write about when you first realized that you were in love, how you see your future together, how your partner has inspired your life. The possibilities are endless when you put your mind to it.

Most all of us have our favorite romance movies and songs. Including a quote from them in your vows is a nice thought as long as you don’t go overboard with the lines or make it to cliché. ”You complete me” is really over used. Try turning the words around to fit you personally.

It’s nice to end your vows with the promises you have made and what you see for your future together.

Finally, read your vows to someone whose judgment you can trust. Does it sound like you? How does it sound read out loud? Make sure that you don’t say anything that will embarrass your partner.

When you are happy with your vows, make a fresh clean copy and be proud of yourself. You have just created something very special for your future spouse by putting what’s in your heart into words.

If you are still having trouble, think about working together. You might find it easier that way. A marriage is all about team work so you might as well start now.